21 6 / 2011

thefremen:

fattiesinlove:

thefremen:

fattiesinlove:

gwhizantor:

jakegrifball:

heroineofmasyaf:

doctorbrainbow:

heroineofmasyaf:

jakegrifball:

WHAT THE FLYING FUCK?!

the weird thing is that this happened in texas. “its bad to spank your kid to discipline them, but the death penalty is an ok way to disciplined crimnals”

I really hate this. Not because I’m all for child abuse, but because we’re slowly turning into a country that will throw a parent in jail for light punishment. 

What’s keeping any cheeky kid out there from calling the cops and getting their mom thrown in jail for giving them a smack when they’re really being awful/unruly? Kids bite and punch and kick and now it’s like if you leave the faintest mark on them when you’re trying to get them to act like a human being, you can be completely fucked and have your kids taken away.  

(Then again, growing up, me and my mom had fist fights to settle our differences.) 

There were marks. That requires a shit-ton of force, much more than required for just spanking. Also, this is a fucking 2 year old. It’s OK to leave marks on a 2 year old when spanking them? Are you fucking kidding me?

There were red marks, not bruises. It doesn’t take a shit-ton of force to make a red mark. I just experimented on A’s arm. She gave me a look like “why the fuck are you hitting me”, and her arm is already turning red. I understand that A is obviously not a two year old, but it doesn’t take BRUISING, SOUL CRUSHING FORCE to put a welt on someone.  

http://whatsajuthika.tumblr.com/post/6777013724/tw-for-child-abuse

The buttocks are different than the arm and red marks take more force to appear there, also children are somewhat more resilient, particularly children just under the age of 2. We also don’t know the exact circumstances, and it is entirely likely that the spanking had nothing do to with discipline but rather was done out of anger. This is akin to the way media reports a rape as “Woman regrets drunk sex when out on date with local football star, he’s found guilty of rape.” That said, I am completely against spanking. It far too easily leads to hitting out of anger and is completely unnecessary for discipline. 

If you can’t spank someone else’s kid to discipline them, then you can’t spank your own. That’s where I stand on the issue. Even if a kid is biting or scratching you, you are the adult, which means you have physical and social power over them. You have to be the bigger person and not resort to the childlike response of hitting to get your way. I work with foster children and their parents, and I would be fired if I used physical discipline, and the parents would be legally reprimanded if they spanked their kids too. But there are many cases in which I must dole out discipline. There are plenty of ways to discipline a child without resorting to physical punishment. And if your child is so incorrigible that you feel that hitting your kid is the only way to stop them, then your kid is acting out some serious mental health issues and needs professional help, not a spanking.

(via scooterpiebanana)

  1. lolman9000 reblogged this from fiztheancient and added:
    well now im sad
  2. fiztheancient reblogged this from boogans and added:
    smooches for boogs and yea different things work for different kids. i would listen 95% of the time to my parents if...
  3. shrap-null reblogged this from copesetic and added:
    I was spanked as a kid but it really didn’t do anything except make for a good threat when I was being a prick. It also...
  4. boogans reblogged this from fiztheancient and added:
    I’m gonna speak as someone who has been both spanked and actually beaten by adults in my life when I was a child. There...
  5. copesetic reblogged this from fiztheancient and added:
    I’d have to agree with fiz. Sadly all of my “spankings” where with a belt or more with an extension cord. And all i do...
  6. wrywlf reblogged this from scooterpiebanana and added:
    That commentary. Corporal punishment is NOT okay. Children are NOT property. You can’t expect children to learn that...
  7. indigoferarchived reblogged this from scooterpiebanana and added:
    TW for discussion of child abuse I feel really weird reading all of this. I mean, my mum (who was the “good parent”,...
  8. rcphoenix reblogged this from afunnyfeminist and added:
    Even if a kid is biting or scratching you, you are the adult, which means you have physical and social power over them....
  9. afunnyfeminist reblogged this from scooterpiebanana and added:
    If you can’t spank someone else’s kid to discipline them, then you can’t spank your own. That’s where I stand on the...
  10. scooterpiebanana reblogged this from fattiesinlove and added:
    http://whatsajuthika.tumblr.com/post/6777013724/tw-for-child-abuse The buttocks are different than the arm and red marks...
  11. mostlygoesastray reblogged this from doctorbrainbow and added:
    One firm swat on a diapered butt to convince a stubborn toddler to stop doing something genuinely dangerous (examples...
  12. fattiesinlove reblogged this from skygosh and added:
    ^^^^^^^^ This judge has basically just reinforced this.
  13. prettycoolblackguy reblogged this from chigen-eden and added:
    That can happen to me or my mom anytime if my sister gets spanked or even slapped when she deserves it. Law and Order=...
  14. chigen-eden reblogged this from fattiesinlove and added:
    This gives them liberty to be the worst little shits imaginable. I plan on punishing my children, if i ever have any. I...
  15. skygosh reblogged this from fattiesinlove and added:
    Things like this really upset me, especially when my parents nearly got legally punished because my autistic brother...
  16. gwhizantor reblogged this from jakegrifball and added:
    that this happened...texas. “its bad...disciplined crimnals”
  17. wincestuousalectryomancy reblogged this from doctorbrainbow and added:
    If the mark lasts more than 5 minutes, it counts as abuse. I support spanking children (not a lot, though), but if...
  18. nicthecleavagepriestess reblogged this from doctorbrainbow and added:
    I was smacked for things like lying and the time I locked my sister in a cupboard. It wasn’t traumatic by any means, and...
  19. doctorbrainbow reblogged this from nicthecleavagepriestess and added:
    I was never spanked as a child, and I’m a lot better off than some kids I know who were spanked. I won’t spank my kids,...